it's 1 o'clock in the morning
been wanting to blog for awhile now
the only reason i'm actually blogging(at this hour) is cause there's no electricity
slept at 10, but an hour later, the seniors were banging on their door(probably locked themselves out) for about, let's say 15 minutes straight? i woke up(obviously, i guess) and when it was finally quiet, my room mate came back and was talking on the phone. i don't blame her i guess.
anyway i went down and sat outside my block(until my phone ran out of battery). super nice weather, kinda inspired me to blog i guess.
i've been randomly wondering what it must feel like to lose a very close friend to their boyfriend/girlfriend
i guess it's an inevitable process unless your friend has decided to be single forever(but even that doesn't guarantee that they aren't gonna find someone that'll sweep them off their feet)
i just wonder sometimes if i'm gonna lose my girl friends to their boyfriends. i mean, they have to give their boyfriend priority, right?
we probably are gonna have to stop spending as much time as we used to
another person to consider
and then there's the matter of having a bestfriend of the opposite gender (not that i am very well-versed in this particular matter, of course)
imagine having this particular friend, so close, so many words exchanged each and everyday
someone you can talk to about anything, just like a normal best friend
not that you both share any romantic feelings
i mean, there's certainly nothing wrong with having a best friend that is of the opposite gender, right?
(not taking the popular belief that you will eventually fall for your best friend into consideration)
you talk all the time, and all that,
so what happens when one of you get together with someone?
doesn't the frequent communication have to stop?
won't things drastically change?
let's assume that we all agree on the above questions,
then what is the point in having this said friendship in the first place if you're gonna lose it in the end?
somebody, rationalise this tangled mess in my head!
"Remember those walls i built? Baby, they're tumbling down"
right now, there are a whole lot of things that looks perfectly fine to me
kind of like,
waters that look perfectly calm, because i've never been in them
or even if they aren't perfectly calm, i think it wouldn't be so bad to be in such waters.
i guess i can't actually judge the waters from afar, right?
i can only conclude after being in those waters myself
as of now, i think being friend zoned isn't that bad
(wait, i actually think i have felt miserable about being friend zoned... ah, i can't remember, so it doesn't count!)
i mean, what's wrong with being friends forever?
unless of course, your friend has been going out with total scumbags and you're actually offering yourself to save your friend from the suffering of another round of heartbreak.
i've always thought that if you love someone(love comes in many forms), the best thing you can offer them is your friendship
romance is always secondary and sometimes(most times, maybe) unnecessary
but i guess emotions tend to mess things up, complicate everything
i for one know what it feels like to have my emotions screw with the friendships i have
and sometimes i can't help but wonder,
why on planet earth can't a guy and a girl stay friends forever?
(i think you get me cause i don't really know how to clearly explain this anymore)
if we know how something is gonna end,
and let's say it's tragically,
why do we still go on with it anyway?
but then i remember, we can't predict the future
we don't know for sure how something will end
and even if said event will end tragically,
it isn't necessarily an extremely bad thing
bad things happen to good people,
and we know it makes them stronger
but when temporarily-stupid people use that as an excuse to go on with something that so clearly hurts them,
it makes me believe that they aren't actually very smart at all
"What a peculiar state we're in"
"I want you to burn my bridges down, set me on fire"
it's now 2 o'clock in the morning
people are afraid of getting hurt
and i would understand that
past experiences leave people scarred
i'm more afraid of hurting
rather than getting hurt
what does this indicate?
belief that i will make it through?
that i am strong enough?
or does this indicate my possible indifference
which may indicate that at the end of it,
i won't lose much
and that is where i fear that there may be a monster inside of me
a monster i never knew i was feeding
i really do
is that enough
to prove that i am
not what i fear to be?
"When sooner or later it's over
I just don't wanna miss you tonight"
that was pretty long
and possibly pretty deep
again, i thank God for the gift of being able to express myself in words
and for giving me peace when i'm confused
for being my hope when i'm let down
even in the midst of all these questions,
One thing i know remains,
His love, His grace, His sovereignty
(wait is that 3 things?)
at the end of the day, God remains
and His love never fails, it never gives up, it never runs out on me!
i'm so glad!
so glad for each and everyday
for each and every conversation
for the Word He speaks to me
which is life, nourishment to my soul
"in Your heart of hearts i'll dwell,
and that my soul knows very well"
God bless you! :)